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Sacred Union…Venus Retrograde 2020

How do we communicate with each other?

The energy of the stars is inviting us to look at how do we do relationships, especially in the field of communication…When we enter into a deep relationship the communication becomes Communion of the hearts…

As many of you know the planet of love, value and beauty – Venus is on her way back to being the evening star…and is in her descent journey into the inner layers of our psyche and shadows…

Therefore, this is a time where we can have a look at our relationships.

Relationships, especially intimate ones – is the place where we get confronted by our own shadow…It’s all very easy thinking we are enlightened and hold harmony with the world and each other when we live alone with our plants and pets….But once we step into the realm of doing a relationship…well, things go pear-shaped- especially after the honeymoon period where we are all gaga over each other.

During this phase, we project what we most wish to see in a partner onto our partner… we wear the rose-coloured spectacles of ‘love.’  I put that into quotes because love is what we do after that…

Having an in-depth relationship is one where we meet with open hearts, and when you feel this connection, communication does grow into deep Communion.

Yet when it comes down to the crunch… fears, as well as resistance, can come up when we want to experience love and actually to speak our truth…I know I have faced this with not only my current partner of 10 years – but also when meeting someone new….fears of the negative thoughts the other might hold when we share our inner truths…The fear that it may create distance and rejection…

My partner and have invoked Sacred Union last year at the beginning of the darker months…and wow did we crash at that….the shit most certainly hit the fan…and we were on the verge of breaking up…

However… in every crisis is an opportunity right?… Well, we decided to really look at who we have become, who we want to be and- what we seek in partnership…

So we even though we crashed in the sacred union course we had planned during the deep dive of winter ( I will speak of that in a later post) BUT we did come out of it …

How? How do we communicate with our partner openly? 

We began just meeting…creating sacred space (stay tuned for upcoming post – or for the women sign up for my 5-month wisdom on sacred space and much more on women’s wisdom here  – and we simply began speaking our truth to each other…. We did this by simply becoming still…feeling inside what we were feeling…and expressing that… Some call it Self Inquiry (stay tuned for an upcoming post and video or simply sign up for my free guide to grounding & centring here ).

We openly shared our deepest resistance and fears…and this ha brought us deeper into intimacy ..In-to -Me-See…

Speaking our truth is deeply healing…and what I found so beautiful in each other…is that we were able to accept and receive each other’s truths. Of course, hearing what he had to say did all kinds of things with me internally…but I was able to honour and feel grateful he shared his deep inner shadow…For me, it was difficult sharing with him that I felt as if the fact that I was not earning enough on my own to be self-sustainable does play a (very small) part in my being still with him… I was never able to voice that until then… and when I did and I could see his acceptance and understanding in his eyes…something deep inside of me healed…

So most likely when we do decide to come together in openness and vulnerability, insecurities, pain, grief will all surface…but I find this now to be proof that our relationship is deepening…because Love and Compassion heal and make whole…they help open us up to our pent up frustrations, resentments and unexpressed hurts from the past to come up … And for me, it now means that energy is flowing and I am processing and coming out of patterns that limit my thoughts and actions….

So this descent of Venus retrograde…is according to Ancient Wisdom the Descent Journey of Innana or Ishtar… Within the story – she descends into the underworld (her inner psyche and shadow) to face with her shadows at the seven gates. Even according to the Chakra, Greek and Tibetan philosophies we meet with our “demons or monsters.”  And when we can remain centred with the focus on our inner wisdom and truth – we leave the underworld- reborn. 

In pop culture…in every movie we see…the knight goes off to slay the dragon…when in truth we do not slay our shadow, demons or monsters…We BEFRIEND them… and bring them into the light…Becoming our allies and guides…

 

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